Tag Archives: Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Lawnmower Listening

I love mowing because it gives me an uninterrupted couple hours of podcast listening.  Makes me sad to see mowing season winding down.  But that just means those long winter evenings are right around the corner & those bring listening opportunities as well, so no worries. : ]

I’m linking here a few of the ones that really hit me recently so I won’t forget the great lessons learned on the red rider:

Loving the Way Jesus Loves – This is a great 3 part series on a book Dr. Philip Ryken (President of Wheaton) wrote about 1 Corinthians 13.  He took each of the characteristics of love spelled out there & pointed to how Jesus showed us that quality.  Good stuff!  Gotta remember to request that book at the library or ask for it for Christmas.

Ask Nancy: How to Control Runaway Emotions – EXCELLENT listen for all women.  Whether you struggle with controlling your own emotions, or you deal with women around you who do (daughter, sister, friend), either way this podcast gives great advice on how to deal with & counsel.  HIGHLY recommend listening to this & I want to keep this one on file for future reference.

Joni & Friends – The whole month of August has great encouragement.  Joni always has good stuff!  Some highlights from the summer include: First Response, The Leper, Faces Unveiled, Painting Faces, The Shepherd, & Some Ordinary Day.  I am so thankful for Joni’s encouragement!


Knitting, Greek, & Podcasts

Sorry, but these days it’s mostly links I’m passing on quickly. With all the snow days, you’d think we’d be on the computer. My knight in shining armor got things running super smoothly again with the router, external hard drive, etc. so I actually got less time on it. But we did find a few cool things on the off times. Here are a few gems found recently I wanted to pass on…

1 – Callie has inspired me to get back to crafting. One of the things we did during all these snow days was get out the knitting needles & crochet hook. Knitting is my thing. I have yet to get crochet to work for me. BUT, after the first two scarves, we wanted to get a little fancy & do some different stitches. I thought knit 2 purl 2 would be an easy place to start. Tried a few stitches & just couldn’t get it to look right. Got on line & found a short tutorial on knit 2 purl 2, watched a lady actually do the stitches, found the little step I was forgetting, & bingo! We’re knitting happily away again! Simple! Here’s the link I found to get you started, but there are all kinds out there. Just put what you’re looking for specifically in the search bar. Next up: crocheting.

2 – Nate is suddenly interested in learning Greek! Perhaps it’s the old seminary books Keith has sitting on the shelf, three days of snow days with his siblings, mixed with his love of making up secret code languages. Btw, the story is often told how Keith took three weeks of Greek, but dropped out of the class when he met me & found out the class was over my lunch hour. He gave up Greek for me. : ] I always end up reminding him how much more fun those lunches were than Greek classes. He agrees, then always says, “But I still want to learn Greek someday.” The kids enjoy our little romantic story. Seminary geeks!! Anyway, we found two seminary classes on line that Nate can watch for free! Amazing! It’s just like sitting in class! So now he’s checking his pronunciation, etc. & picking around at Greek! I share because it really is amazing all the things you can learn on line these days. Stretch your imagination & see if that hobby you’ve been wanting to learn is there. It just might be! If you’re interested in the links, I’ll have to get back to you on those – can’t seem to find them at the moment. I’ll ask Keith.

3 – On Family Life Today the last few days, Reggie Joiner from Basics 252 has been talking with the guys. EXCELLENT!!! If you get a few moments to listen, please do! Here are the links to part one & part two. I *heart* Reggie Joiner & his orange gang!!

4 – I also had time to catch up on Revive Our Hearts. Nancy has had Carolyn McCulley on. She speaks to single women, but I found SO much valuable stuff in her talks! Here are the links to part one and part two. These, along with what Reggie has been saying, are so what I KNOW to be true & would love to be able to remember & put in words as concisely when counceling others, but probably won’t be able to, so I’ll send them to these links to hear. It is so exciting to hear people putting these truths into words. Good stuff! I want to tuck these “single lady” talks away for when – in the blink of an eye, I’ll be up to my ears in nieces & a daughter going through all this crazy but SUPER important time of waiting for the man God has for them. Makes me extra appreciative of the wonderful man God gave me! AND makes me excited to see what stories God will unfold in my girls’ lives in the not as far off as we might think future. : ]

A “GREAT” Response & Three Freebies

Sorry to be so quiet lately. It’s been pretty busy around here, but among the many goings on has been both a Thirst Conference & an Anger Resolution Seminar in the last month. So much to share, but only time to pass on a bit. The Lord keeps bringing the following little nugget up in my life a lot lately so I thought I should type it out. Maybe it’s something you will find useful in your life, too. This is from the Gothard material I’ve been studying lately; both the Anger Resolution conference & the Commands of Christ curriculum (Command #3 – Rejoice).

Have a “GREAT” response to trials/suffering in life. This little acronym is handy for me; I can carry it with me & it sticks. It’s easy to pull up in my mind whenever needed.:

G – Give thanks – This is not a feeling, but rather an act of obedience. I need to recognize this circumstance as from God’s loving hand. Whatever it is! God brought it into my life for my good. (Romans 8:28, 31-32, 35-39) If nothing else, He is using it to build godly character in my life making me more in His image which is the goal anyway, isn’t it? He cares much more about my long-term well being than my temporary happiness. He does not mean it for evil. Giving thanks for it, no matter what, requires FAITH. (Hebrews 11:1-2,6) My reward for giving thanks as we are commanded to do in ALL circumstances (1 Thess. 5:18) is peace, joy, & love that only comes from God & that the world can’t offer. It stands out! (Hebrews 13:12-15; Job 1:21, 2:10; Phil. 2:14-15; Phil. 4:6-9; Psalm 107:22; Gen. 50:20; Jeremiah 29:11)

R – Rejoice – This is where the feeling part comes in. Rejoicing involves emotions. The ONLY way to be able to do this in horrible situations is to think of all the ways this situation could be beneficial. This requires looking at it from God’s perspective. Could He be working in someone else’s life who is looking on? Is He building a character quality in my life I need to strengthen in order to be the godly person I long to be? Is He using this to keep me on my knees & totally dependent on Him? Than that’s good! That’s where I need to be anyway. It is also helpful to remember that even in those times when a bad situation is mostly my own stupid fault (we all have them), God is graciously able to use even those bad situations to turn it around & get the glory in even that! Whatever that is! Isn’t that wonderful?! (Phil. 4:4; Hebrews 10:34 – read vs. 32-39; Matthew 5:12; Isaiah 55:8-9; Psalm 119:71, 19:8)

E – Engraft Scripture – In other words, transform my way of thinking by drenching my mind in God’s Word. (Romans 12:2; 10:17) Satan will undoubtedly be whispering lies in my ear about this trial I’m going through, no matter how big or small. DON’T listen! Even more than that, actively pursue the Truth! Whatever the situation, find applicable verses in God’s Word that speak to this area. Seek them out & collect them. Write them out. Meditate on them. Post them where they will be before my eyes multiple times a day. Mull them over. Engraft them into my life just like a horticulturist ties new branches onto a tree to make them literally grow into & become a part of the tree. (John 15:5) Memorize them. Have them ready to throw back at Satan whenever his lies pop up, day or night. (Ephesians 6:16-17; John 15:7; Psalm 119:25-29)

A – Appeal to God – Literally cry out to our heavenly Father. He knows what I need! He has given me the authority to do this! I am His child & He has promised that He hears my cries. Isn’t that amazing?! (Psalm 50:15; 55:16-17; 56:9; 107:13; Hebrews 10:19-23; 1 John 3:1, 21-22; Romans 8:15-18)

T – Triumph over evil with good works – Overcome evil with good (Romans 12:21). This is what I am commanded to do as a Christ follower (Matthew 5:43-48). This goes against everything humanly natural! This only happens as I allow God’s grace to flow through me. This is where the Holy Spirit’s fruit is produced & evident in my life (Galatians 5:22-25). Jesus is our example in this – He did this for me! He took the initiative in forgiving me & changing my sinful self for His glory. I can in turn, by the power of the Holy Spirit, pass forgiveness on. This is where the world sees Christ in me! (Hebrews 12:1-4)

I’ll close with three free resources God has been using greatly in my life. Maybe you would be blessed in them as well…

Commands of Christ – a 49 week discipleship challenge. If you click the window on the right that says “select a command”, a drop down window will allow you to click through all 49 & select whichever one you want to study. You can have daily emails sent with links to help you dig daily into the wealth of materials here.

– Nancy Leigh DeMoss’ Revive Our Hearts radio program – You can listen to past programs here, or set yourself up to have it come into your iTunes or email automatically every day. I have enjoyed these daily broadcasts SO much! If you’ve never heard it, might I suggest you start with this series. I give it three sessions & you’ll be hooked!

– Oswald Chambers’ daily devotionals from My Utmost For His Highest – You can read it free daily here, or have it sent to your facebook page by clicking “like” there. I really love his short but challenging thoughts & have for years. They are always applicable & worth reading. It also doesn’t hurt that he looks a lot like my Keith – easy to love him. : ]

Favorite Quotes Revisited

A list of great quotes was started here, but over the last couple years, a few more have floated through that need to be added. These are the ones that stuck & have been coming back a lot lately so get promoted to the list…

“I have an enemy & you’re not it.” – Pastor Yogi gave it in a sermon.
Comes in handy more than you’d think! Really puts things in perspective quickly. No matter who you’re in a stink with about what, Satan’s the one at work there. Love the other person! See the attack for what it is.

“Anything that makes me need God is a blessing.” – Nancy Leigh DeMoss

“He’s alive, you know.” – Bill Hendricks
This goes along with something Dr. Habermas shared with us. God spoke to him in the midst of his grief at the death of his young wife of about 15 years, “Didn’t I raise My Son from the dead?” Our God is not dead. He is intricately involved & loves me very much. And He can do anything!

“Pick red apples.” – James MacDonald on evangelism.
If you need the explanation on this, click here.

“Things will happen when you pray that wouldn’t have happened if you didn’t pray. Likewise, things will not happen if you don’t pray that would’ve happened if you had prayed.” – Dad
Keith & I are just scratching the surface of the mysteries of prayer. Wow. God. hears. us! Utterly amazing.

“Does it count for eternity?” – heard at a Gothard seminar years ago & various places through the years; reminded by good friend Diane recently.
Excellent measuring stick when sorting out what to say yes or no to & how to redeem the time.

“See them the way Jesus/God does.” – parenting advice from Diane.
I heard a variation on this again on Focus on the Family with Tim & Darcy Kimmel talking about grace parenting recently. (You can listen to part one & part two on line by clicking on the blue title after you open the pages linked here.) This is good to remember when dealing with people in general.

“We cannot insure success, but we can deserve it.” — John Adams

“All tyranny needs to gain a foothold is for people of good conscience to remain silent.” – Thomas Jefferson

Just found a new one…
“Be careful how you count. And if it results in pride or jealousy, stop counting. The Lord will not share his glory!” – Mark Batterson

The Bigger Family, Part 2

“Everyone’s a little off except you & me. And sometimes I wonder about you!”


That being said, I list here some of the things I appreciate about these men/ministries in the Bigger Family. I’ve heard at least one warning about every last one of them, even the Donut Man! I do not list the complaints here to avoid promoting fodder. Although I don’t agree 100% with any of them, I love each one & I’m sure if we had the time to sit & chat, they’d find things to disagree with me about & perhaps would, as iron sharpens iron, straighten me out on a few things I’m “sure” I’m right on. If you haven’t heard any their contravercies yet, you either will in time, or perhaps you’re in a crowd of folk that have a “whatever you believe is nice for you” attitude which is somewhere between unloving due to apathy & so far watered down they don’t amount to anything (no salt & light left). Go find some friends who will challenge you to dig a little deeper spiritually. Start chatting it up with your friends about spiritual things. The old saying about not talking politics or religion is for the birds. That’s where all the good conversations take place! That being said, here’s my list of brothers/sisters & things I appreciate about them…

Michael & Debbie Pearl I love her book Created to Be His Help Meet. Their writings on parenthood have also given me the courage to do what I need to do at times when everywhere else, we hear tenderfooted parenting. They say some things out there that no one else has the courage to say. I like that.

Voddie Bauchum is another one of those who stir the church thinking pot a bit & it’s what I like about him.

Bill Gothard Next to my parents, this man has had the most influence in my character, etc. I am so grateful my parents took the effort to get me to his conferences through the years! Those seven principles have had a huge impact in my life & in who I am today.

Doug Philips His promotion of getting back to family & family based worship is wonderful. I appreciate his celebration of the genders, too. It’s great to be a woman & I want my daughter to embrace that early on. I want my boys to be all boy & love it! That’s been lost in the last generation & Doug’s reclaiming it. Thank you!

Ken Ham Can I just say I LOVE teaching Genesis? I’ve loved it since before I heard Ken’s phrase “back to Genesis”.

Nancy Leigh DeMoss Honestly, I haven’t heard one negative thing about her. I keep waiting. She’d be the first to say she’s not perfect, but usually someone who says the things she says can’t stay under the radar too long without someone getting their toes stepped on & dissing her. But when I do hear it, I will still respect her right up there at the top. She is showing us how to be a woman (single or married), Godly, under authority, serving the Family in so many ways. I just love her, can you tell?

Billy Graham He has faithfully been sharing the Gospel message for decades. He has lived a God-honoring & long life, never once disgracing the Gospel with scandal. He has been used to reach Presidents when no one else could. I so admire & respect him for that!

James Dobson Adventures in Odyssey, That the World May Know, Focus radio, The Truth Project are just a few of the many ways he has blessed my family. Thank you, Dr. Dobson, for doing the ministry God put before you.

Jerry Falwell Keith & I wouldn’t have met, I wouldn’t have spent four years in Korea to name just two ways this man has probably more personally changed my life than anyone besides my own dear parents. Two of my three sisters-in-law are mine due to his ministry. My husband was discipled through his ministry. My life would look completely different if he hadn’t “taken that mountain”. I will be forever grateful!

Rick Warren He’s kind of the Billy Graham of our generation. See above – same as for Billy G. Actually, Keith & I have discussed how similar Rick Warren & Jerry Falwell are. People wouldn’t normally say that, thinking Jerry was always wearing a suit & Rick always wears a Hawaiian shirt, but they both are willing to try great things for God, are reaching out to the lost with a smile, take a lot of hits from Christians & non alike, & dream big!

The Donut Man My family has been so blessed by his ability to put God’s Word to music in a fun way. Music makes it stick! God definitely gave him a gift & I’m thankful he is using it.

Anyone have others to add to the list?

To My Single Friends

I meant to post this before Christmas, but you know how that goes. Anyway, I found this old draft of a letter I’d sent to a friend right after Callie was born (eight years ago). She was feeling down about her singleness & this was what I sent her for encouragement. I know so many friends out there waiting for God’s best. Another holiday of waiting is hard to take! Facing yet another year with that dream still allusive. This is a long post, but I hope it brings encouragement. It’s what I plan on sharing with our children if/when God calls them to wait…

This morning, after our phone conversation, I awoke at 4am & couldn’t sleep. So, I got up, took a hot bath, read Oswald Chambers, & the Lord brought to mind some things I should’ve shared last night but didn’t think of. So, I thought I’d write them down & share them in a letter.

In thinking back to Keith & me, the critical point for me was when I gave him up “as my Isaac”. Let me explain. There was a point when I knew I loved him & was pretty sure he loved me, but he didn’t know it (women usually know before men i find!). This was about the time I had signed up to go teach in Korea & he was all “excited for me”, remember? Well, that Sunday, after wrestling with all this over a very long weekend, I decided to give him up to the Lord. And not just him, but any & all relationships with guys. My heart’s desire was to be married & have/raise godly children, & God knew that – I felt he gave me that desire. But I had to (as Abraham) literally place that whole desire on the alter, give it up to God by walking up front at TRBC that night, & leaving it all on the prayer steps before the Lord. I told Him that I would give Him my dreams of a family & if He chose to give it back to me, great. But if not, I would be happier with Him alone! And I had to really let that dream die. I think at that point, I was able to make the right decisions about Keith – as far as not writing him, totally letting him go & leaving it up to God to bring him back to me if that’s what was best for me & Keith, etc. & not get “mopey”.

It doesn’t end with marriage. God brought me to a similar “test” later – just last year. We got pregnant right away with Nate & I just assumed we’d be able to “control” & “decide” when we had our kids. Boy, did God show me Who’s in control & teach me through this one! (And I’m so glad He’s in control & not me!!) We “decided it was time” for another child in our family when Nate was a year & a half, but God wanted to teach us something about Himself instead. We prayed – no baby. After over a year, I was really sad about it & (of course) everyone around me was having a baby. There was a time I even prayed for twins thinking, “Well, Lord, since there’s this gap here, maybe You could make use of the extra time between kids & ‘double our money’.” : )

Then Keith’s cousin got pregnant with twins! I struggled with that one. The twins were born & I was still not pregnant & very sad. A week later, while taking a meal to a friend who’d just given birth to her 8th baby, I finally came to the end of the struggle. I had to again totally give my dreams to the Lord & say, “Lord, this is not my life, it’s Yours. You are the Master planner & You have a master plan with my best interest in mind. If Your will is for us to raise one child, I will raise that child happily with all my heart. I will not waste any more of the precious time You have blessed me with all sad about something that obviously isn’t best because You haven’t given it to me & if it was for my best, You would give it to me. You know what’s best for all involved & I trust you. Thank You for being trust worthy!” And I left the dream of any more children totally with God, not to worry about it again but to instead rest in Him & thank Him for this time in my life. A week later, the twins were found to have CP & one almost died. That family went through so much. I was able to pray for them a lot through that because I felt a “connection” to them having prayed for twins & all & feeling that if God had let me “have my way”, that could’ve been me sort of thing. They came to mind very often through all that. Anyway, long story longer, a year later (note: we found out Callie was on the way literally the next month after I gave it all to the Lord!) the twins have been healed completelyno sign of CP now – it “disappeared”! We have a beautiful baby girl! And again, I’ve learned Who’s in control & knows best. It was not until I totally died to my dreams & gave them completely to God that my dreams were fulfilled – as with my relationship with Keith. But I couldn’t lay my dreams on the alter to “manipulate” God into giving me my heart’s desire – I had to just die to them & rest/trust in Him PERIOD.

The other part of that was to find JOY in my dead dreams & to really believe this was all for good. This is where real faith comes in. With Keith, it was going & teaching in Korea – pouring my heart into ministry. I did that before I met Keith, too – teaching Sunday School with all my heart, and I loved it. I really miss not being able/having the time to teach SS like that now! I loved it! I really felt God was using me to make a difference in those kids’ lives. With waiting for Callie, it was praying more for others focusedly (is that a word? Cuz I just used it.) Like, praying for pregnant women, for barren couples, for the abortion issue, etc. I am now much more keenly aware of infertile couples & their pain – I was clueless as to that before! Now I can pray with knowledge for them. I can also testify to God’s perfect timing & encourage them (as with you & relationships) that God does have a plan & His timing is perfect – REST in the mean time! Concentrate on your relationship with the Lord through it all. he is bringing these things into your life & using these circumstances in your life to make you into the person He wants you to be, which is where you will be most fulfilled as His child.

Matthew 6:25-33 = “…don’t worry about everyday life…Look at the birds…your heavenly Father feeds them. And you are far more valuable to Him than they are. Can all your worries add to a single moment to your life? Of course not…why worry…if God cares so wonderfully for the flowers that are here today & gone tomorrow, won’t He more surely care for you?… So don’t worry…your heavenly Father already knows all your needs, & He will give you all you need… if you live for Him & make the kingdom of God your primary concern.”

Oswald chambers wrote, “Pay attention to the Source, & out of you will flow rivers of living water (John 7:38). We cannot discover the source of our natural life through common sense & reasoning, & Jesus is teaching here that growth in our spiritual life comes not from focusing directly on it, but from concentrating on our Father in Heaven. Our Father knows our circumstances, & if we will stay focused on him, instead of our circumstances, we will grow spiritually – just as the lilies of the field.”

That really struck me this morning. Isn’t that ultimately what life is all about? We are here to glorify God. PERIOD. God uses life circumstances to shape us into glorifiers (is THAT a word? cuz I just used it!) give us His character so the world may see Him through us & know him. His whole theme throughout the OT & NT & on to Revelation is to “make Himself known”. Psalm 59:13b says, “Then the whole world will know that God reigns…” If I can do that best single, than let it be so, Lord! If I can best do that married, let it be. Best with no children, one child, many children…Your will, not mine! Let me be like Mary & sit at Your feet, learning from You, loving You; rather than getting so caught up in life around me like Martha.

In conclusion, as I was flipping through Psalms to find a verse (they are all over if not looking for them, but not as obvious when you are looking!) about God’s aim of “letting the world know I am God”, these popped out at me & I’ll just list them – you can look them up. I have the NLT which is what I was reading when I found these. Hope they bring the needed encouragement…

Psalm 84:5-7/10-12 Psalm 81:10b/16 Psalm 73:25-28 Psalm 71:5-7 Psalm 66:5,7,9,12b,19,20 Psalm 63:1-8 Psalm 62:1,2,5,8 Psalm 56:3,8,9b Psalm 46:1-3,7,10 Psalm 43:4,5 Psalm 42 Psalm 40:1-3,10,16,17 Psalm 37:3-5,7b,16,18,25,34 Psalm 34:1-19 Psalm 31:5a,14,15a,19,23,24 Psalm 30:5b,11,12 Psalm 27:1,4,8,10,13,14 Psalm 16:2,5,6,8,11 Psalm 4:3,7,8 Psalm 5:3,12

Your sister, Leigh Ann”

2009 Update: The girl I sent this letter to is now married with two sweet boys, God has given us two more children so far, & the twins are still healthy! Saw them over Christmas up in MN – cute. Until I read this letter again, I had totally forgotten they ever had CP. Oh, and God continues to teach me He has a great plan even in the twists & turns. It always turns out better when you lay your plans in His hands!

Also, since writing this to my friend, I’ve found Nancy Leigh DeMoss. If you’re a single woman (or married!), check her stuff out. Run! Really!! She’s that good.

Lazarus, Come Forth!

Good news!! The prayer chain sent news today of two great things…

– One of the people in our church with cancer who is planning a bone marrow transplant next month had tests come back today & it is cancer free! He’s the one with seven children, the youngest barely 4 years old. PTL!!

– Last week, Kevin was having pain. We prayed for him & the pain went away. He was having trouble breathing & they called in the family. We all prayed & his breathing became normal again. His nose started bleeding & wouldn’t stop so he couldn’t sleep & was getting exhasted. We prayed for the nose bleed to stop & it did! Now today, his “counts” are coming down (a good thing) & the doctors have no explanation for it. His body started making platelets on it’s own for the first time since the transplant! It is truly a miracle. The medical team has come to the end of what they can do. They are doing nothing right now. But God seems to be doing something!

At Club last Wednesday night, the kids & I talked about Lazarus & the key verse was, “I am the resurrection & the life…” We talked about death & how it is all because of sin & both cause separation. It sucks! But God has made a way for us. PTL! When we feel the sting of death, may it cause us to HATE sin, love our Saviour, and remember the hope we have only in Him. I set the lesson schedule up last fall, so this “just happened” to be this week’s lesson. This Wednesday, we will be talking about the Lord’s Prayer. Nancy Leigh DeMoss “just happened” to start a series on The Lord’s Prayer last week. 🙂 I told the kids tonight, if Kevin comes back to us, it will be just as much a miracle as watching Lazarus walk out of that grave. He was basically declared no hope – given a week to live a week & a half ago. Maybe that’s exactly where God wanted to take him to get the full glory He deserves. We shall see. If God raises him up now, & it looks like He might be, ONLY God can get the glory!!! But we continue to pray, ” Nevertheless, not My will but Yours be done.” (the memory verse for this week, letter N). Just like Jesus, we need to totally trust God the Father Who loves us beyond our comprehension, to do in & through us more than we can hope or think, no matter how bad things look around us.

Be encouraged tonight!

For those young pups out there who’ve never heard Carmen, here’s an old story/song, but it’s still good 24 years later. Just try to ignore the gold chains & jacket…