Monthly Archives: May 2007

Readying Our Arrows, Part 1

Okay, this is something that’s been on my mind for awhile but I haven’t written about because it’s a biggun. This will be a topic that will be returned to over the coming months as I mull it all over.

As you know, I work with the Wednesday night Club that includes the little guys. These kids are 4 years through 6th grade. I have noticed a bit of a “we’re too cool for this” – “I’m not interested” attitude from a couple of the older ones, but have been praying for them & working that out. Soon, some of these children will be moving up to the youth group which Keith works with. He, too, has noticed the same attitude up there in a few of the kids. We are praying that down as well. The irony about all this is that the two or three who act like they are too old for whatever or that they are “bored” are in actuality the immature ones of the bunch which is why they behave that way. We are praying for their attitudes, but also that it doesn’t spread or drag down the others in the groups.

None of this is “abnormal”, but we cannot have as our goal to just raise “normal” kids!!!! We are very concerned that our churched children go off to college or on their own not just staying out of trouble, but are “planted like a tree by the water”, their roots will not be shaken when they head out in this world. Their faith is THEIRS, not their parents, & they can verbalize what they believe & why any time they would be asked. They should be able to do that when they leave the nest of the church & their parents’ home. The church should be helping to equip the parents to get that task accomplished in the 18 or so years we have those little arrows in our quiver. If we fail them in this task, we have failed to do what God has commanded of us just like the Israelites who wandered around in the wilderness for 40 years & then it seems every time they turned around (see the whole book of Judges!) they forgot & turned from God!

Judges 2:10 – “After that generation died, another grew up who did not acknowledge the Lord or remember the mighty things He had done for Israel.”

How sad & awful!! As Keith & I head into the teenage years with Nate (we have a few years left in the boyhood stage, but it’s coming quickly!), we are looking to avoid those pitfalls. So many good Christian homes “lose” at least one of their children for a time of foolishness if not forever. We will fight with everything that is in us by God’s grace & mercy to keep that from happening to one of ours. (I can’t even write that without tears welling in my eyes – it is very close to my heart.) But because the Lord gave me the spiritual gift of shepherding children, I see those in the Club as mine as well to a point. I realize their parents stand before God for them, but as the family of God, I stand beside them & pray & weep & fight right along with them. I want to see all of our children bringing forth fruit in each season, not squandering the wonderful life God gave them or have to come crawling back to Him after years of wallowing in the mud of this ole’ world! The thing is, & Satan knows this, the college age years are when they are making decisions that will follow them the rest of their lives. God always forgives repentant hearts, but some things carry lifelong consequences & many of those choices are made in the key college years. Are they going prepared? It takes years – doesn’t happen overnight.

The last article Dad & I discussed before God took him home was on this topic; Jumping Ship – What to do so your children don’t jump ship to the world when they get older. I invite you to read the five parter (it’s lengthy, but well worth the time to read) as you get time.

This week, as God would have it while all this has been heavy on our hearts lately, Dr. Dobson has Josh McDowell on to talk about the shift in our culture with youth today. If you are still with me on this post & at all on the same page with what I am saying, you have to listen to the May 21 & 22 broadcast. We are in a spiritual battle to keep the hearts of the next generation. We have to win!

Ephesians 6:12 – “For we are not fighting against people made of flesh & blood, but against the evil rulers & authorities of the unseen world…”

1 John 4:4 – “Greater is he that is in you than he that is in the world.”

Last Tribute to Uncle Jerry

Today is the funeral for Dr. Falwell. My brother & sister-in-law went down, but since Keith couldn’t go, I didn’t feel quite right about bumming a ride down with them. Our hearts are with them, though. We’ll miss you, Pastor. Men like you come few & far between.

Need A Good Laugh?

Loving Our Man & Raising Our Boys

FamilyLife Today with the Raineys had a week on manhood last week. Having a man for a husband & two up & coming young ones to raise up, I was interested. The last two in particular looked good – about women’s influence. Those are the only ones I’ve heard so far but they’re EXCELLENT! Both for wifing & mothering boys. (Now that I’ve heard those two, the first three are a definite listen.)

Their May 10th & 11th broadcast was Barbara talking to women about the stages of manhood & what we do to hinder or encourage our men to either go through those stages or get stuck at adolescence, etc. Good stuff! I want to keep the info for my own reference as well as to pass along in women’s groups as able.

Click here for the link.

You can subscribe to the podcast or listen/read the transcript on their site.

Basic outline for reference…

Five steps to a being a man:
1 – boyhood
2 – adolescence
3 – manhood
4 – mentoring
5 – patriarch

Things wives/moms do to hinder them getting through those steps:
1 -Feed his childishness by being a child herself.

1 Peter 3:9 – Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will bless you for it.

2 – Enable him in his weaknesses and his addictions, and don’t speak the truth.

Romans 13:14 – Instead, clothe yourself with the presence of the Lord Jesus Christ. And don’t let yourself think about ways to indulge your evil desires.

3 – Treat him like a boy or speaking to him like he’s a boy, speaking down to him.

Romans 12:3 – Don’t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us.

4 – Have negative expectations.
5 – Turn his heart away from God. (Solomon)

Things we can do to encourage:
1 – Choose maturity for ourselves.
2 – Speak the truth to him in love. (Esther)

Proverbs 16:21 – The wise are known for their understanding, and pleasant words are persuasive.

3 – Praise him when he does step up to manhood.

Ephesians 4:29 – Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.

4 – Believe in him that he can become a godly man.

Luke 1:37 – For nothing is impossible with God.

5 – Pursuing godliness ourselves.

Hebrews 4:15,16 – This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testings we do, yet he did not sin. So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.

We’ve Got Kitties!!

Just 30 minutes before Abbie’s first birthday bash at Grandma’s, Beauty started having her kittens. Callie, being the first to find her & the newbie, was ecstatic! Throughout the party, more were added to her brood. We now have four sweet little kitties…a gray spotted one, a dark tiger striped one, a tiger & white spotted one, & a mostly white one with a few tiger spots. The kids are sleeping with smiles on their faces tonight.



Ann Coulter Weighs In


You gotta love this lady:)…

Jerry Falwell: Say hello to Ronald Reagan!
– Ann Coulter, May 16, 2007

No man in the last century better illustrated Jesus’ warning that “All men will hate you because of me” than the Rev. Jerry Falwell, who left this world on Tuesday. Separately, no man better illustrates my warning that it doesn’t pay to be nice to liberals.

Falwell was a perfected Christian. He exuded Christian love for all men, hating sin while loving sinners. This is as opposed to liberals, who just love sinners. Like Christ ministering to prostitutes, Falwell regularly left the safe confines of his church to show up in such benighted venues as CNN.

He was such a good Christian that back when we used to be on TV together during Clinton’s impeachment, I sometimes wanted to say to him, “Step aside, reverend – let the mean girl handle this one.” (Why, that guy probably prayed for Clinton!)

For putting Christ above everything – even the opportunity to make a humiliating joke about Clinton – Falwell is known as “controversial.” Nothing is ever as “controversial” as yammering about Scripture as if, you know, it’s the word of God or something.

From the news coverage of Falwell’s death, I began to suspect his first name was “Whether You Agree With Him or Not.”

Even Falwell’s fans, such as evangelist Billy Graham and former President Bush, kept throwing in the “We didn’t always agree” disclaimer. Did Betty Friedan or Molly Ivins get this many “I didn’t always agree with” qualifiers on their deaths? And when I die, if you didn’t always agree with me, would you mind keeping it to yourself?

Let me be the first to say: I ALWAYS agreed with the Rev. Falwell.

Actually, there was one small item I think Falwell got wrong regarding his statement after 9-11 that “the pagans, and the abortionists, and the feminists, and the gays and the lesbians – who are actively trying to make that an alternative lifestyle – the ACLU, People for the American Way, all of them who have tried to secularize America. I point the finger in their face and say, ‘You helped this happen.'”

First of all, I disagreed with that statement because Falwell neglected to specifically include Teddy Kennedy and “the Reverend” Barry Lynn.

Second, Falwell later stressed that he blamed the terrorists most of all, but I think that clarification was unnecessary. The necessary clarification was to note that God was at least protecting America enough not to allow the terrorists to strike when a Democrat was in the White House.

(If you still think it isn’t Christ whom liberals hate, remember: They hate Falwell even more than they hate me.)

I note that in Falwell’s list of Americans he blamed for ejecting God from public life, only the gays got a qualifier. Falwell referred to gays and lesbians who are actively trying to make that an alternative lifestyle.

No Christian minister is going to preach that homosexuality is godly behavior, but Falwell didn’t add any limiting qualifications to his condemnation of feminists, the ACLU or People for the American Way.

There have always been gay people – even in the prelapsarian ’50s that Jerry Falwell and I would like to return to, when God protected America from everything but ourselves.

What Falwell was referring to are the gay activists – the ones who spit the Eucharist on the floor at St. Patrick’s Cathedral, blamed Reagan for AIDS and keep trying to teach small schoolchildren about “fisting.”

Also the ones who promote the gay lifestyle in a children’s cartoon.

Beginning in early 1998, the news was bristling with stories about a children’s cartoon PBS was importing from Britain that featured a gay cartoon character, Tinky Winky, the purple Teletubbie with a male voice and a red handbag.

People magazine gleefully reported that Teletubbies was “aimed at Telebabies as young as 1 year. But teenage club kids love the products’ kitsch value, and gay men have made the purse-toting Tinky Winky a camp icon.”

In the Nexis archives for 1998 alone, there are dozens and dozens of mentions of Tinky Winky being gay – in periodicals such as Newsweek, the Toronto Star, the Washington Post (twice!), the New York Times and Time magazine (also twice).

In its Jan. 8, 1999, issue, USA Today accused the Washington Post of “outing” Tinky Winky, with a “recent Washington Post In/Out list putting T.W. opposite Ellen DeGeneres and Anne Heche, essentially ‘outing’ the kids’ show character.”

Michael Musto of the Village Voice boasted that Tinky Winky was “out and proud,” noting that it was “a great message to kids – not only that it’s OK to be gay, but the importance of being well accessorized.”

All this appeared before Falwell made his first mention of Tinky Winky.

After one year of the mainstream media laughing at having put one over on stupid bourgeois Americans by promoting a gay cartoon character in a TV show for children, when Falwell criticized the cartoon in February 1999, that same mainstream media howled with derision that Falwell thought a cartoon character could be gay.

Teletubbies producers immediately denounced the suggestion that Tinky Winky was gay – though they admitted that he was once briefly engaged to Liza Minnelli. That’s what you get, reverend, for believing what you read in the Washington Post, the New York Times, Time magazine and Newsweek. Of course, Falwell also thought the show “Queer as Folk” was gay, so obviously the man had no credibility.

Despite venomous attacks and overwhelming pressure to adopt the fashionable beliefs of cafe society, Falwell never wavered an inch in acknowledging Jesus before men. Luckily, Jesus’ full sentence, quoted at the beginning of this column is: “All men will hate you because of me, but he who stands firm to the end will be saved.”

Thank you, Ann. That’s what I wanted to say, but you do it so well!!!!!

Connections in Korea

To the friend I just spoke with about Korea & opportunities, here’s a quick list of the sites we talked about…

Myong Ji University

Seoul Union Church


Mission Baptist Church

Seoul Foreign School